A person’s stature ought to be measured not by how tall he has grown but by how often he has had to bow, and how low, in the process.
Violence did, does and likely will have a role. But all forms of mindless, target-less, disproportionate violence is against civility and is counter productive.
Be happy your way, with your means. It’s foolish to be unhappy trying to be happy in the ways of other people.